Developing Emotional Agility with Alessandra Zielinski
The ability to manage one’s thoughts and feelings is essential to success. Emotional agility is about being mindful of our emotional state and consciously navigating our feelings rather than trying to suppress them.
This session will focus on building an emotional vocabulary and generating situational awareness (e.g., how you perceive the world, how you respond to stress, and how this may be impacting your success).
Don’t forget to bring a pen and paper to this interactive session!
About Alessandra Zielinski:
Alessandra Zielinski is a consultant, executive coach, and educator. As a consultant, she works with mission-driven organizations on growth strategy and turning vision into action. Her executive coaching focuses on supporting rising leaders as they navigate the complexity of senior roles. Alessandra is an instructor at American University where she teaches graduate courses in intercultural communications and consulting.
A message from Alessandra:
Thank you so much for joining the session on Monday. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or just want to be in touch (firstname.lastname@example.org and https://www.linkedin.com/in/alessandrazielinski/). Here are the follow up resources promised:
As I mentioned in the session, the framework we walked through is based on the Energy Leadership Index Assessment, which was recognized by Forbes as one of the top executive assessment tools out there. If you’re interested in going deeper in exploring your typical emotional state as well as your response to stress, I’d encourage you to consider signing up to take the assessment. I’m certified in the tool and you can also search this directory to find other coaches that administer the ELI: https://www.oneideaaway.com/coach
FOLLOW UP READING
- Emotional Agility, by Susan David (there is also an HBR article that summarizes her ideas: https://hbr.org/2013/11/emotional-agility?referral=00060)
- No Hard Feelings, by Liz Fosslien & Mollie West Duffy (they also have a great website with several resources: https://www.lizandmollie.com/guides)
- Search Inside Yourself, by Chade-Meng Tan
And finally, here is the reflection exercise that I offer up as a homework assignment for practicing what we reviewed in the workshop:
Choose one of the following generic scenarios. Select one that is relevant to you at the current moment and fill in the detail of your particular situation.
- You want to ask your boss for a raise, promotion, or change in roles and responsibilities at work
- You want to confront a peer, teammate, or employee about their performance on a project you are working on and their underperformance
- You need to prepare to present recommendations to your boss or your department. You believe they are not going to share your perspective (e.g., you think they are skeptical of the idea)
- Or make up another scenario of your own
- How you might start that conversation using each level of energy. What kinds of words and tone would each level have?
As a reminder:
Level 1 = apathy
Level 2 = anger
Level 3 = rationalizing (coping)
Level 4 = compassion
Level 5 = peace (win-win)
Level 6 = joy